Why do you think is the reason that you’re not getting ahead? What challenges do you face in finding opportunities, or could it be that you’re seeing the opportunities when they come to you?
The main reason that people don’t move forward as they want to is that they’re engaging in self-defeating behaviors. If you’re not performing at the level that you think you ought to be, you may want to consider whether or not you’ve become your own worst enemy.
How can you tell? Look for these four signs:
You Use the Emergency Exit.
And do you tend to come close to completion of a project only to procrastinate at the last minute? When you feel the need to jump, it’s potentially due to being afraid to take the last step. It could be that you’re too worried that it won’t work out, or worse, you’re worried that it will!
It’s not uncommon to back away from things that frighten us. This is why some of us destroy a relationship the moment that we start to feel close to the other person. It’s also why some of us sabotage ourselves at work when we hear we’re being considered for promotion.
When you put things off, you generally do so because your feel a little insecure or unsure about what you’re doing. If you feel like your skills are not up to the job, or you’re not confident regarding the next step, it’s natural to put things off in the hope that they’ll seem more apparent later.
Here’s the problem; this clarity rarely comes. The reality is, we only wind up sinking ourselves when we should have been asking for help.
You’ve Gone Off To Do Something Entirely Different.
Are you easily distracted? If you’re worried about the outcome of one project, it’s not uncommon to throw yourself into another. This helps you keep your mind off of what worries you. It also keeps you from getting done what you need to.
You’re Listening To The Wrong Self Talk.
Instead of using some positive self-talk to get things done, are you by any chance encouraging negative self-talk to keep you from trying? It’s so easy to convince ourselves that we’re going to fail. Why do we do it? Because if we know, it’s not going to work out, we never have to try in the first place.
All of these behaviors can have a seriously destructive effect on what we’re doing. Indeed, we’re experts at being our own worst enemies, especially when we were trying to achieve something which involves any manner of risk, or the task is personally important to us.